Have you heard the saying ‘your vibe attracts your tribe’ and ‘where attention goes, energy flows’?
This is the basis of The Law of Attraction.
There is now a significant amount of scientific research on how & why the Law of Attraction works. My inner geek totally LOVES the research, from the neuroscience to evolution, to psychology, to spirituality but we won’t go there today.
I am always aiming to keep the soulful, simple, so let’s stick with the basics of The Law of Attraction. So basic that I will be using a children’s book to help explain it.
The last few nights, my 9yo daughter and I, have been reading a book called Sara – Book 1, subtitled – Sara learns the Secret about the Law of Attraction.
For those who aren’t familiar with these teachings, Esther (& Jerry) Hicks have many books focussed on the Law of Attraction.
I have a couple of the books – Ask and it is Given, and the Astonishing Power of Emotions, in my rather extensive personal development home library, but I never really connected with these ones. BUT the teachings of Solomon the owl in this Sara book were written for children – and therefore so easy to understand.
The key messages in the book were –
- We all have access to an eternal source of ‘well-being’.
- We also have the ability to CHOOSE to keep our inner valve open to this flow and stay feeling good or to close our valve, and not feel good.
- Without realising it, we are often focussing our attention on what we DON’T want, rather than what we DO want. When we do this we cut off our connection to this source of wellbeing energy.
A simple example would be someone cutting you off in traffic, it can be frightening and make us angry. It typically knocks us out of feeling good immediately. To imagine keeping our valve open and send love to that inconsiderate driver may seem a stretch, but that is what Solomon is teaching.
Whilst we are still learning this, we can have control over how long we then stay there, and whether we are attracting more of the same but staying focused on what we don’t want.
I know many people who will share the story with everyone they meet, and I wonder how much more this happens to them than to me?
If you believe in the Law of Attraction, that like-attracts-like, then it is easy to see how staying focused on what you ‘don’t’ want, in this case careless, inconsiderate drivers, rather than what you do want, safe road travel, is attracting more of the same toward you.
In the book, they play a game and my daughter and I decided to play too. Let’s call it the ‘yes’ game.
How can we begin saying ‘yes’ to what we DO want, rather than ‘no’ to what we DON’T want?
We discovered very quickly, as they did in the book, that it takes an effort to stick with the positive! And this doesn’t even touch on what we are saying to ourselves INSIDE!
A few examples from this morning “Stop doing that to your sister/brother”, “This is really hard”, “I can’t do this”, “No more screen time”, “No, you can’t have chocolate for breakfast”.
Making a conscious effort to create positive phrases instead would be something like:
- Let’s go and play a fun game together;
- With practice, this will be really easy;
- I love learning new things;
- I love connecting with you face to face;
- Let’s feed ourselves some beautiful, healthy food so we have lots of energy for the day.
Obviously using your own words – but WOW – have a try and see just how many things you are saying in the negative, rather than focusing that attention on what you do want in the positive.
It’s easy to do so much of this, unconsciously –
- I want to lose weight vs I want to feel fit and healthy and comfortable in my skin;
- My kid’s fight all the time vs We have a harmonious home;
- Don’t be late vs It’s great to be on time;
- The house is so messy vs I love having a tidy home, it helps me feel clear in my mind;
Where are you creating a vibration, giving it your attention and attracting in what you don’t want?
Have a play & see how this goes for you, I’d love to hear about it – let me know in the comments below.