An Inner Calling

Is an inner voice calling out to you, but you’re not sure what it’s saying?

Do you feel a sense of emptiness, a longing, but are not sure what to do about it?

Here I share how to stay in aligned action, even in the unknown, including a simple, practical yet powerful technique to find your momentum.

 

 

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An Inner Calling

Do you struggle with feeling that there’s something more that you could be doing something bigger, something different?

Something is calling you to move in a new direction but you don’t know what it is? So you don’t do anything.

Maybe your ideas and dreams and visions are so big! There are so many different things that you could do to move you in that direction, you also end up not doing anything. Or scrambling around doing little bits here and there, but nothing that really moves the needle to get you closer to that destination.

This is something that I have personally struggled with. I have really big dreams and so many things that I would like to do, and so many directions that I would like to grow into, in order to show up in service every day for you guys.

And yet so many days I sit there, I’m like, what is the best action for me today? And I don’t know what that is.

What to do with the Unknown

I want to share with you here what to do with the unknown.

Because what I know to be true and what I have seen time and time again in my client’s own outcomes is that the magical unexpected solutions drop in when they are staying in alignment AND in action.

Each day they are taking steps, doing what feels right in that moment that is in alignment with their bigger dreams. And that is where the unexpected solutions are dropping in for them.

My ‘Unknown’ Struggle Story

For me, a pattern that I have is, I am a Virgo and I have perfectionistic tendencies. I don’t want to put things out into the world, in terms of growing my business or serving you guys, and to add value to people’s lives, unless it looks really professional and it’s really perfect.

An Entrepreneur Truth

I guess I want you all to feel that I’ve got all of this under control in the background. But to be honest, I’m just figuring all of this out.

Entrepreneurial Life is new to me. So making sure I’ve got it all ticked and crossed in the background, I still haven’t sorted that one all out.

But what I have worked out is that it was causing me not to show up at all.

What next – the struggle

So having done the incredible Sharing Soulful Stories summit earlier this year and feeling into what next. Thinking I would love to continue the YouTube channel and grow a Podcast from this. Wondering who else can I reach out to, and what can this grow in to, but not feeling like I had clear answers for where this was going yet.

So many things felt good and exciting and I wanted to go in all of the directions, and I was finding I really wasn’t doing anything.

Indeed, I wasn’t even being visible in the summit Facebook group that was created to get in there and talk about spirituality and what it means to all of us and how we’re exploring it to live a more heart-led and love connected and centred life. All good stuff right. So, let’s keep moving forward.

What is Aligned Action?

When I’m working with my clients, there’s a whole bunch of different things that we talk about in getting connected to their authentic self and discovering what alignment looks like for them and clarifying where they’re going.

So they have really got their personal why? And they’ve really got “what” they want to create, that can open the door for the universe to allow the “how” to drop in, in all sorts of unexpected ways, which is where the magic and the miracles happen.

A Simple but powerful solution

What I wanted to share with you is really powerful, yet simple, because the simple solutions are often the best – as long as you do it.

There IS work to be done, but it doesn’t always need to be complicated or crazy amounts of different things.

Here is a journal prompt that I would love to offer to you today that I really feel will help you stay in aligned action even if you don’t know what is next for you, even if you’re not sure what is next for you.

Setting a Pure Intention

Behind this prompt, behind everything, I intentionally hold what I consider to be a really pure intention – ‘that whatever manifests in my life be in the highest and best for all of humanity, for all spiritual beings here walking on the earth as humans.’

And that just holds everything.

I would never want something to manifest for me that is going to cause somebody else not to have their highest and best.

If you have no idea what’s next

If you genuinely have no idea what’s next for you in life, something feels like it’s missing, there is this longing and inner calling that there’s got to be more to life than this going on, but you really don’t know what it is.

So an amazing question to play with that can help tune in on a day to day basis is:  what is life’s best use for me today or right now?

Spend some time journaling on that prompt.

The next prompt, which really could come up with some magical, magical solutions for you, things that you unexpectedly write out if you allow yourself to free write journal after this is :

If I did know what would I do?

Allow yourself to go there because I want to offer to you that your higher self, your intuitive knowing, your body – if you can get out of your mind – knows.

How our inner knowing speaks

Now, the ‘knowing’ that exists in this plain, in this less “3d realm” that can come through, doesn’t always say, okay, today you need to Dah, Dah, Dah, Dah, Dah, Dah.

It doesn’t typically speak to us in that way – for some, it might do and that’s awesome and congratulations if that’s how it works for you.

For me, I hold the big why of what I’m trying to grow with this business, which really at the core and the heart of it is raising the love vibration on the planet because that is what will change the way that we live.

And I can see such a big picture when it comes to that of the magic and the shifts that could happen across the planet if everybody learned how to exist in the love vibration.

Imagine if we learned it in our own households and how to do it with our own children.

And so for me, if I just hold it in that and I am slowly working on bringing that into all that I do, that’s enough.

What is life’s best use for me today? That’s enough.

So those questions, but if you haven’t quite got your big why yet, play with – if I did know, what would I do?

Tell me how you go. I would love to hear how these journal prompts went for you

Living In Co-Creation

Video Blog Insights Overview – Secret #1 revealed at 1.50 and secret #2 at 3.00. Client success stories at 5.00. Client manifestation success at 9.15.

Be sure to catch me sum it all up at 9.44 and open yourself up to living in co-creation.

Video Transcription

Hey guys, I just have to come off two of the most amazing strategy, and breakthrough sessions and I wanted to share a little bit about what we were doing in the sessions.

I did email the people on my distribution list, the offer of these free sessions. And if you’re not on my list, jump on and if you’re seeing this on Facebook or Instagram do drop me a note and we can organize a time.

I sent out these sessions as, Manifest your Reality sessions and really looking at where in your life it just ain’t turnin’ out the way you want it to. Is it something that you could manifest differently and where the blocks? So we really got into the nitty-gritty of what is it that you are manifesting.

Now what I wanted to share with you by coming on and doing this video, is why I don’t actually use the word manifestation.

And when I say that I totally did use it. That’s what I called the sessions. And the reason that I called them that is because that is a term that most people are familiar with.

Living in Co-creation

But what I really share with my clients and teach them how to do is something that I prefer to call living in co-creation. And there are two reasons why I use the term co-creation.

Living in Co-creation – we are not in control

The first reason why I use the phrase cocreation is an acknowledgement that we are not actually in control of this.

So living in creation is quite different from living in survival. We do have some control over our thoughts and our actions, but ultimately we could get hit by a bus tomorrow and we can’t control that. There are always going to be external circumstances.

And my understanding of my beliefs around the universe is that a lot of those are put there for us to learn lessons and for our growth and evolution and because there may be a higher purpose.

And looking at that from the eyes of what is the highest and best for all in this and not just what is best for me.

So the first reason I use cocreation is that acknowledgement that we are not actually in control of everything. That is just not possible.

Um, and knowing the difference between what we can and can’t control is, is a whole nother blog post style, a whole nother story, right?

The Manifestation Technique

The second reason that I use the term cocreation rather than manifestation is that traditionally manifestation is putting a specific thing that you, you would like or would desire to happen in your life, uh, into your thoughts and starting to feel that as a reality in your body. Now that is great and that as a technique can work. There’s been so, so, so many people that have proven, um, and the book and the movie ‘The Secret’ have really shown how that technique can work.

What I see with that though, is that most people have a limited perspective on what is possible. So by manifesting what it is that we most desire at this time, we’re limiting it to what we believe is the best outcome or the best solution for a problem or the best shift or the best change for us in our lives that we can see that we want.

But what if there is something better? What if there is something bigger?

And I know, I’ve done vision boards with my mum, even when we were kids. I can’t remember. We’ve definitely had them on our walls in our bedrooms as teenagers. And we always write on the bottom, “May this or something better be manifested for the highest good of all”. And that little phrase does open up to bigger possibilities.

Living in Co-Creation – Unexpected Solutions

But what I really love about living in cocreation as something that is bigger and better than manifestation, and that is it opens up the possibility of unexpected solutions.

And so to highlight what I mean by that, I want to share a couple of client stories with you.

Client Success Stories #1

And the first one is a beautiful client. Um, I’m not gonna name her yet because I don’t know if everybody’s aware of what is happening in her life at this stage.

But I want to share with you that she had a dream of running her own business as um, and, and doing a lot of workshops and things around sustainability and also, um, a particular parenting style coaching. But at this stage, she couldn’t see a way to stop doing the work that she was currently doing and be able to afford to live off that new career.

She was really in, um, just couldn’t see the possibility of how that transition was going to happen, at least not in this existing circumstance where she was paying school fees for her children.

Then an unexpected solution dropped in which actually allowed her to have every single piece of her desired outcome in a way that she could never have expected it.

And to give you details it came up with her daughter wanting to go and finish your schooling somewhere else. And so there’s through this move that was completely unexpected, she is able to rent out her house here in Sydney, earn an income from that property, be moving and living somewhere where the cost of rent is significantly lower. And every piece of it aligns with her values and with her vision that we talked about in a way that she still looks at me and awe and cannot believe that this is really happening.

This reality, this new reality for her that she’s not quite moved into it fully yet, but all the pieces are lined up for that to happen now.

Client Success Stories #2

And then another client who, another client, Kate, who had another similar situation, she was working on her own business. She was building up her own business in coaching and we were working through that and what that would look like.

But when we really got into her why it was just so big and so beautiful and her creating her own business in alignment with that was beautiful. And then the unexpected dropped in and all of a sudden a business opportunity where she’s working with an ex-colleague.

They create the most beautiful synergy when they work together in an area that she could never have quite foreseen, still doing the work that she loves and knows deeply, but in a way where she has the ability now to touch so many more people’s lives and make even more impact and a bigger difference, which is allowing her to start dreaming bigger of what financial abundance she may create from this.

A bigger why..

Because as we need to serve the planet, we do need to be supported. I don’t like the word need. I’m going to rephrase the word need that desire that we have to serve to make this world a better place often and no, every one of my clients when we get to that ultimate why it’s not just about them.

Surrendering the ‘How’

It is so much deeper. It is about how they can contribute to other people’s lives and the difference that they ultimately want to make. And it comes with this pure, incredible, beautiful intention that allows, once they start thinking of the ‘why’ and ‘what’ they want to do towards that, the ‘hows’ just seem to happen by magic, just miraculous solutions.

A manifestation client story

So I have another client who would actually say, “I manifested my redundancy, Jo, I know I manifested this”, but I also know she probably had that redundancy as a thing that she was hoping for as a stepping stone. So she, she had considered that as a possible outcome or an outcome that would be fantastic to take her steps closer to growing her business in the way that she wanted to.

But I love the possibility of opening yourself up to co-creation where the universe just might have a better option for you.

Something that you could not possibly, possibly have foreseen or predicted in your future, by opening to possibility and aligning with a deeper truth and connecting to who you are.

These are the sort of miraculous and unexpected solutions that are dropping in for my clients. So I hope that made sense.

Why co-creation is more expansive than manifestation

The idea of co-creation as a more expansive version of manifestation. One where we’re handing over that and surrendering and accepting the fact that we cannot control everything and we are opening ourselves up to the unexpected solutions that could drop in and allow us to step into that bigger vision of ourselves that can be stepping into a bigger vision of our lives.

One that lights us up and excites us and inspires us every day.

So I hope this video was helpful and I look forward to tuning in with you soon. Bye for now.

Know your purpose and give your heart a voice.

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Do you know your purpose? Why it is that you are here, on this planet, at this time, living your life?

If your heart had a voice…. What would it say?

Spoiler alert – the answer isn’t “I Don’t Know”

This blog was originally intended to be getting passionate about your purpose and then I discovered this :-

‘most people don’t know their purpose’

The very idea that they ‘should’ know is adding anxiety to the mixing pot of an already overwhelming life.

To avoid adding any further anxiety to the planet, let’s gently play with DISCOVERING it.

One idea I’ve heard to connect with your purpose is :

*get curious,

*try lots of new things

*see what you love

This idea does have merit, if you have time as well as organisation and devotion to it.

OR, we could go directly to the source.

Your heart knows.

Know your purpose

The answer to finding your own purpose lies in connecting deeply into your body.

Divine intelligence pulses through your body, just as it does every flower, every tree. Just as they know how to grow, why they are here, and how to BE – so does your body.

It’s the mind that gets in the way.

You can’t ‘think’ your way to this answer.

Why discover your purpose?

Embracing your purpose opens up a whole new perspective and new way of living.

Imagine dropping all the unhelpful thoughts, then dropping the collection of masks you wear and rediscovering your true authentic and DIVINE nature…

and show up for life from that place every day.

Imagine the world if we all gave to and received from the world around us in this deep, connected way.

This is living with presence.

Totally in the present moment. Living present is really living – FEELING life’s pulse in you. That is magic.

There is a magnetic presence to being present.

In this magnetic way you can express and give your heart a voice that is loving, true, honest and totally authentic.

Practicing Presence

Deep, present moment, loving, connected presence takes practice.

Try this now.

Close your eyes and take a few deep breaths, let your breath flow in exactly the same way it was before you placed your awareness on it.

Where in your body can you feel your breath?

Let go of any physical, anatomical ideas of where you might feel it and just see what you can feel…

I’m sure with focus you can feel your breath in your nose, throat, chest and belly…

Stay with me.

Now, can you feel your breath in your hands? Can you feel it in your legs, your back, even in the space around your body?

If thoughts come in, that’s ok – they will do. Letting them drift away again without getting lost in them is the part that takes the most practice.

Take a moment also to notice the spaces in your breath. The little pause as we move from in to out, and out to in.

Do this for a few minutes each day and see whether you begin to feel your breath more completely.

It may even become more meaningful to consider where in your body you can’t feel the pulse of your breath.

Just a few minutes of conscious, intentional breathing every day is one way to practice presence.

This moment is all that is real – remember to live it.

To be here, be now, be in this moment.

As you become familiar with the feeling of connection in your body, invite your heart to speak.

Be open to the possibility of wisdom and deep truths to arise – surrendering into this space, allow and see whether anything bubbles up

Untainted by the mind, untainted by any thoughts.

This is you, the real you, the authentic you.

Learning to express ourselves from this place changes everything.

From this place nothing anyone says or does to you can shake your alignment, your centre, your balance.

It is from this place that you KNOW yourself.

Add so much fulfilment and joy to your life by embracing your purpose and knowing and expressing your beautiful, authentic self.

If you’d like to know more about how presence and purpose could bring more happiness into your life, book a free discovery call here.

 

 

Are you missing out on your life? Be Here Now.

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Hello, are you here?

How much of you is here, now, reading?

How many other tabs do you have open on your phone or computer? Are there notifications flashing up as you read?

What is happening around you?

If I said to you “bring ALL of your attention to this moment”, how easy is that for you to do?

Present moment awareness is a skill that we are losing in our busy modern-day lives.

We SEEM to be fully engaged in an activity, but a piece of our attention, our monkey mind, is somewhere else.

Where does your mind go to?

Is it to the past, future, worries, anxieties, planning, daydreaming…

It is likely to be anywhere but HERE at a time other than NOW.

Our easily distractible minds are slowly stealing our lives away.

The only life we get to live is the one we are living – right now.

How often do you say (or think) to yourself, where is the time going?

The last day, week, month, year? What have I been doing?

What are you wishing away and then wondering where it disappeared to?

Kids bedtime falls into this category for me.

I look forward to them being asleep, for the space and time to myself, and then look back and wonder whether we truly connected while they were awake.

I’ve realised that even as I am singing bedtime songs to my son, that my mind wanders to writing a blog post, or an idea I’d like to share.

I have to consciously bring myself back to the moment. I know he won’t want Mummy singing songs for too much longer.

Would you like to be more present in your life? With your loved ones?

A little mantra I say to myself (inspired by the book Way of the Peaceful Warrior) is :

Where are you Jo? “HERE”

What time is it Jo? “NOW”

What are you Jo? “I AM THIS MOMENT”

It helps bring me back to the moment, I often use it before meditating (& occasionally during meditation too if my thoughts are running off).

The world is FULL OF DISTRACTIONS….

Without even realising it we are programming our minds to jump around constantly, from one idea to the next.

Our devices don’t help.

They have become like a third arm.  As they are programmed to do more and more for us, there are more and more reasons to look at them ALL THE TIME….

So often we are viewing our lives through a lens, rather than living it, a life that is filtered, captured, saved and shared.

Do you ever take a quick snap and then walk away? Feeling excited to get social and share that moment?

Do you stay and take the time to really BE in the moment that you have captured?

That moment IS your life. Remember to live it.

Even if you lock your device away, even if you pop it on aeroplane mode, can you be 100% focused on the task at hand?

It sounds simple, but it takes practice.

What is distracting you from living your life here and now?

Is it the past pulling at your thoughts, or maybe it’s planning the future? Worries, anxieties?

One simply soulful step is to become aware of where your mind is going.

Are you ready to shift out of the problems and plans and discover a way to truly live the only life you get to live – the one that is happening right here, right now?

Book a free call to find out how coaching could help you to be more present in your life. You can read more about life coaching here.

So much love,

Jo xx

 

Invite into your Life what you Truly Desire

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Have you heard the saying ‘your vibe attracts your tribe’ and ‘where attention goes, energy flows’?

This is the basis of The Law of Attraction.

There is now a significant amount of scientific research on how & why the Law of Attraction works. My inner geek totally LOVES the research, from the neuroscience to evolution, to psychology, to spirituality but we won’t go there today.

I am always aiming to keep the soulful, simple, so let’s stick with the basics of The Law of Attraction. So basic that I will be using a children’s book to help explain it.

The last few nights, my 9yo daughter and I, have been reading a book called Sara – Book 1, subtitled – Sara learns the Secret about the Law of Attraction.

For those who aren’t familiar with these teachings, Esther (& Jerry) Hicks have many books focussed on the Law of Attraction.

I have a couple of the books – Ask and it is Given, and the Astonishing Power of Emotions, in my rather extensive personal development home library, but I never really connected with these ones. BUT the teachings of Solomon the owl in this Sara book were written for children – and therefore so easy to understand.

The key messages in the book were –

  • We all have access to an eternal source of ‘well-being’.
  • We also have the ability to CHOOSE to keep our inner valve open to this flow and stay feeling good or to close our valve, and not feel good.
  • Without realising it, we are often focussing our attention on what we DON’T want, rather than what we DO want. When we do this we cut off our connection to this source of wellbeing energy.

A simple example would be someone cutting you off in traffic, it can be frightening and make us angry. It typically knocks us out of feeling good immediately. To imagine keeping our valve open and send love to that inconsiderate driver may seem a stretch, but that is what Solomon is teaching.

Whilst we are still learning this, we can have control over how long we then stay there, and whether we are attracting more of the same but staying focused on what we don’t want.

I know many people who will share the story with everyone they meet, and I wonder how much more this happens to them than to me?

If you believe in the Law of Attraction, that like-attracts-like, then it is easy to see how staying focused on what you ‘don’t’ want, in this case careless, inconsiderate drivers, rather than what you do want, safe road travel, is attracting more of the same toward you.

In the book, they play a game and my daughter and I decided to play too. Let’s call it the ‘yes’ game.

How can we begin saying ‘yes’ to what we DO want, rather than ‘no’ to what we DON’T want?

We discovered very quickly, as they did in the book, that it takes an effort to stick with the positive! And this doesn’t even touch on what we are saying to ourselves INSIDE!

A few examples from this morning “Stop doing that to your sister/brother”, “This is really hard”, “I can’t do this”, “No more screen time”, “No, you can’t have chocolate for breakfast”.

Making a conscious effort to create positive phrases instead would be something like:

  • Let’s go and play a fun game together;
  • With practice, this will be really easy;
  • I love learning new things;
  • I love connecting with you face to face;
  • Let’s feed ourselves some beautiful, healthy food so we have lots of energy for the day.

Obviously using your own words – but WOW – have a try and see just how many things you are saying in the negative, rather than focusing that attention on what you do want in the positive.

It’s easy to do so much of this, unconsciously –

  • I want to lose weight vs I want to feel fit and healthy and comfortable in my skin;
  • My kid’s fight all the time vs We have a harmonious home;
  • Don’t be late vs It’s great to be on time;
  • The house is so messy vs I love having a tidy home, it helps me feel clear in my mind;

Where are you creating a vibration, giving it your attention and attracting in what you don’t want?

Have a play & see how this goes for you, I’d love to hear about it – let me know in the comments below.

 

When your feelings have a tight grip on you.

The weather has significantly changed here in Sydney as we move from Summer to Autumn. Sat in a café this week I was busy rubbing my hands together to warm them up.

As my food arrived, I took a few breaths to become present and mindfully aware of eating (a new habit I’m working on!)

In doing this I slowed down enough to have the following realisation…

  • My hands were cold, but they were not uncomfortable.
  • It was a sensation, but it wasn’t unpleasant.
  • My unconscious HABIT was “if I am cold, I must warm up” – my body was doing it on autopilot.
  • I didn’t need to get rid of the feeling of them being cold.
  • It was OK for them to be cold.

It was the perfect analogy…

When I first connect with clients, they are feeling unhappy about something, whether life or themselves.

Typically, they are also distracting themselves from it with super busy minds, and repeating the same thought patterns over and over again… Many of the very same thoughts that likely created the feeling in the first place.

What I have observed is the more they try to get rid of the feeling, to push it away, trying make it stop, intensely focused on “FIXING the problem” – the STRONGER its grip…

Transformation I find is far more likely (and kinder and more compassionate) if they can be ok with the feeling, become softly curious. Even ask the feeling “why are you here?”, “what would you like to share/ tell me?”.

This way we are not making the feeling ‘wrong’. The feeling itself can’t be wrong, the feeling simply IS.

The feeling is a sensation, that is here in the moment, this moment being the only ‘real life’ you get to live. As soon as we are wishing the NOW was different, “should’ing it”, then we are no longer “IN” the moment.

But no one wants to be unhappy?

It’s true that no one wants to be unhappy all the time, but it is ok to feel unhappy.

Emotions are energy in motion, they CAN pass by like clouds, if we allow ourselves to FEEL them.

Feeling the feeling allows it to stay in motion, the cloud keeps drifting and we move through the feelings. If we are desperately trying NOT to feel them, it actually stops the movement.

This isn’t a process of ‘thinking’ about the feeling, of analysing the feeling, this is about FEELING the feeling – embodying it, what does it really feel like inside your body, rather than what you think about the feeling in the mind.

Your body won’t tell you that you shouldn’t feel like this, or that so and so doesn’t feel like this, or ask why this always happens to you… that is all in your head.

Take your attention down into your body & FEEL it.

What does sadness feel like, where in your body can you feel it, is it warm or cold, squidgy, prickly, soft, hard – is it big or small.

How does your body want to BE with that feeling, does it want to be still, to breathe or perhaps movement would be helpful, add sound, yell, sob, sing.

This simple process can often allow the stuck energy to shift, change and even transmute altogether.

I would love to hear if this process works for you – let me know in the comments below.