Know your purpose and give your heart a voice.

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Do you know your purpose? Why it is that you are here, on this planet, at this time, living your life?

If your heart had a voice…. What would it say?

Spoiler alert – the answer isn’t “I Don’t Know”

This blog was originally intended to be getting passionate about your purpose and then I discovered this :-

‘most people don’t know their purpose’

The very idea that they ‘should’ know is adding anxiety to the mixing pot of an already overwhelming life.

To avoid adding any further anxiety to the planet, let’s gently play with DISCOVERING it.

One idea I’ve heard to connect with your purpose is :

*get curious,

*try lots of new things

*see what you love

This idea does have merit, if you have time as well as organisation and devotion to it.

OR, we could go directly to the source.

Your heart knows.

Know your purpose

The answer to finding your own purpose lies in connecting deeply into your body.

Divine intelligence pulses through your body, just as it does every flower, every tree. Just as they know how to grow, why they are here, and how to BE – so does your body.

It’s the mind that gets in the way.

You can’t ‘think’ your way to this answer.

Why discover your purpose?

Embracing your purpose opens up a whole new perspective and new way of living.

Imagine dropping all the unhelpful thoughts, then dropping the collection of masks you wear and rediscovering your true authentic and DIVINE nature…

and show up for life from that place every day.

Imagine the world if we all gave to and received from the world around us in this deep, connected way.

This is living with presence.

Totally in the present moment. Living present is really living – FEELING life’s pulse in you. That is magic.

There is a magnetic presence to being present.

In this magnetic way you can express and give your heart a voice that is loving, true, honest and totally authentic.

Practicing Presence

Deep, present moment, loving, connected presence takes practice.

Try this now.

Close your eyes and take a few deep breaths, let your breath flow in exactly the same way it was before you placed your awareness on it.

Where in your body can you feel your breath?

Let go of any physical, anatomical ideas of where you might feel it and just see what you can feel…

I’m sure with focus you can feel your breath in your nose, throat, chest and belly…

Stay with me.

Now, can you feel your breath in your hands? Can you feel it in your legs, your back, even in the space around your body?

If thoughts come in, that’s ok – they will do. Letting them drift away again without getting lost in them is the part that takes the most practice.

Take a moment also to notice the spaces in your breath. The little pause as we move from in to out, and out to in.

Do this for a few minutes each day and see whether you begin to feel your breath more completely.

It may even become more meaningful to consider where in your body you can’t feel the pulse of your breath.

Just a few minutes of conscious, intentional breathing every day is one way to practice presence.

This moment is all that is real – remember to live it.

To be here, be now, be in this moment.

As you become familiar with the feeling of connection in your body, invite your heart to speak.

Be open to the possibility of wisdom and deep truths to arise – surrendering into this space, allow and see whether anything bubbles up

Untainted by the mind, untainted by any thoughts.

This is you, the real you, the authentic you.

Learning to express ourselves from this place changes everything.

From this place nothing anyone says or does to you can shake your alignment, your centre, your balance.

It is from this place that you KNOW yourself.

Add so much fulfilment and joy to your life by embracing your purpose and knowing and expressing your beautiful, authentic self.

If you’d like to know more about how presence and purpose could bring more happiness into your life, book a free discovery call here.

 

 

Are you missing out on your life? Be Here Now.

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Hello, are you here?

How much of you is here, now, reading?

How many other tabs do you have open on your phone or computer? Are there notifications flashing up as you read?

What is happening around you?

If I said to you “bring ALL of your attention to this moment”, how easy is that for you to do?

Present moment awareness is a skill that we are losing in our busy modern-day lives.

We SEEM to be fully engaged in an activity, but a piece of our attention, our monkey mind, is somewhere else.

Where does your mind go to?

Is it to the past, future, worries, anxieties, planning, daydreaming…

It is likely to be anywhere but HERE at a time other than NOW.

Our easily distractible minds are slowly stealing our lives away.

The only life we get to live is the one we are living – right now.

How often do you say (or think) to yourself, where is the time going?

The last day, week, month, year? What have I been doing?

What are you wishing away and then wondering where it disappeared to?

Kids bedtime falls into this category for me.

I look forward to them being asleep, for the space and time to myself, and then look back and wonder whether we truly connected while they were awake.

I’ve realised that even as I am singing bedtime songs to my son, that my mind wanders to writing a blog post, or an idea I’d like to share.

I have to consciously bring myself back to the moment. I know he won’t want Mummy singing songs for too much longer.

Would you like to be more present in your life? With your loved ones?

A little mantra I say to myself (inspired by the book Way of the Peaceful Warrior) is :

Where are you Jo? “HERE”

What time is it Jo? “NOW”

What are you Jo? “I AM THIS MOMENT”

It helps bring me back to the moment, I often use it before meditating (& occasionally during meditation too if my thoughts are running off).

The world is FULL OF DISTRACTIONS….

Without even realising it we are programming our minds to jump around constantly, from one idea to the next.

Our devices don’t help.

They have become like a third arm.  As they are programmed to do more and more for us, there are more and more reasons to look at them ALL THE TIME….

So often we are viewing our lives through a lens, rather than living it, a life that is filtered, captured, saved and shared.

Do you ever take a quick snap and then walk away? Feeling excited to get social and share that moment?

Do you stay and take the time to really BE in the moment that you have captured?

That moment IS your life. Remember to live it.

Even if you lock your device away, even if you pop it on aeroplane mode, can you be 100% focused on the task at hand?

It sounds simple, but it takes practice.

What is distracting you from living your life here and now?

Is it the past pulling at your thoughts, or maybe it’s planning the future? Worries, anxieties?

One simply soulful step is to become aware of where your mind is going.

Are you ready to shift out of the problems and plans and discover a way to truly live the only life you get to live – the one that is happening right here, right now?

Book a free call to find out how coaching could help you to be more present in your life. You can read more about life coaching here.

So much love,

Jo xx

 

Invite into your Life what you Truly Desire

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Have you heard the saying ‘your vibe attracts your tribe’ and ‘where attention goes, energy flows’?

This is the basis of The Law of Attraction.

There is now a significant amount of scientific research on how & why the Law of Attraction works. My inner geek totally LOVES the research, from the neuroscience to evolution, to psychology, to spirituality but we won’t go there today.

I am always aiming to keep the soulful, simple, so let’s stick with the basics of The Law of Attraction. So basic that I will be using a children’s book to help explain it.

The last few nights, my 9yo daughter and I, have been reading a book called Sara – Book 1, subtitled – Sara learns the Secret about the Law of Attraction.

For those who aren’t familiar with these teachings, Esther (& Jerry) Hicks have many books focussed on the Law of Attraction.

I have a couple of the books – Ask and it is Given, and the Astonishing Power of Emotions, in my rather extensive personal development home library, but I never really connected with these ones. BUT the teachings of Solomon the owl in this Sara book were written for children – and therefore so easy to understand.

The key messages in the book were –

  • We all have access to an eternal source of ‘well-being’.
  • We also have the ability to CHOOSE to keep our inner valve open to this flow and stay feeling good or to close our valve, and not feel good.
  • Without realising it, we are often focussing our attention on what we DON’T want, rather than what we DO want. When we do this we cut off our connection to this source of wellbeing energy.

A simple example would be someone cutting you off in traffic, it can be frightening and make us angry. It typically knocks us out of feeling good immediately. To imagine keeping our valve open and send love to that inconsiderate driver may seem a stretch, but that is what Solomon is teaching.

Whilst we are still learning this, we can have control over how long we then stay there, and whether we are attracting more of the same but staying focused on what we don’t want.

I know many people who will share the story with everyone they meet, and I wonder how much more this happens to them than to me?

If you believe in the Law of Attraction, that like-attracts-like, then it is easy to see how staying focused on what you ‘don’t’ want, in this case careless, inconsiderate drivers, rather than what you do want, safe road travel, is attracting more of the same toward you.

In the book, they play a game and my daughter and I decided to play too. Let’s call it the ‘yes’ game.

How can we begin saying ‘yes’ to what we DO want, rather than ‘no’ to what we DON’T want?

We discovered very quickly, as they did in the book, that it takes an effort to stick with the positive! And this doesn’t even touch on what we are saying to ourselves INSIDE!

A few examples from this morning “Stop doing that to your sister/brother”, “This is really hard”, “I can’t do this”, “No more screen time”, “No, you can’t have chocolate for breakfast”.

Making a conscious effort to create positive phrases instead would be something like:

  • Let’s go and play a fun game together;
  • With practice, this will be really easy;
  • I love learning new things;
  • I love connecting with you face to face;
  • Let’s feed ourselves some beautiful, healthy food so we have lots of energy for the day.

Obviously using your own words – but WOW – have a try and see just how many things you are saying in the negative, rather than focusing that attention on what you do want in the positive.

It’s easy to do so much of this, unconsciously –

  • I want to lose weight vs I want to feel fit and healthy and comfortable in my skin;
  • My kid’s fight all the time vs We have a harmonious home;
  • Don’t be late vs It’s great to be on time;
  • The house is so messy vs I love having a tidy home, it helps me feel clear in my mind;

Where are you creating a vibration, giving it your attention and attracting in what you don’t want?

Have a play & see how this goes for you, I’d love to hear about it – let me know in the comments below.

 

When your feelings have a tight grip on you.

The weather has significantly changed here in Sydney as we move from Summer to Autumn. Sat in a café this week I was busy rubbing my hands together to warm them up.

As my food arrived, I took a few breaths to become present and mindfully aware of eating (a new habit I’m working on!)

In doing this I slowed down enough to have the following realisation…

  • My hands were cold, but they were not uncomfortable.
  • It was a sensation, but it wasn’t unpleasant.
  • My unconscious HABIT was “if I am cold, I must warm up” – my body was doing it on autopilot.
  • I didn’t need to get rid of the feeling of them being cold.
  • It was OK for them to be cold.

It was the perfect analogy…

When I first connect with clients, they are feeling unhappy about something, whether life or themselves.

Typically, they are also distracting themselves from it with super busy minds, and repeating the same thought patterns over and over again… Many of the very same thoughts that likely created the feeling in the first place.

What I have observed is the more they try to get rid of the feeling, to push it away, trying make it stop, intensely focused on “FIXING the problem” – the STRONGER its grip…

Transformation I find is far more likely (and kinder and more compassionate) if they can be ok with the feeling, become softly curious. Even ask the feeling “why are you here?”, “what would you like to share/ tell me?”.

This way we are not making the feeling ‘wrong’. The feeling itself can’t be wrong, the feeling simply IS.

The feeling is a sensation, that is here in the moment, this moment being the only ‘real life’ you get to live. As soon as we are wishing the NOW was different, “should’ing it”, then we are no longer “IN” the moment.

But no one wants to be unhappy?

It’s true that no one wants to be unhappy all the time, but it is ok to feel unhappy.

Emotions are energy in motion, they CAN pass by like clouds, if we allow ourselves to FEEL them.

Feeling the feeling allows it to stay in motion, the cloud keeps drifting and we move through the feelings. If we are desperately trying NOT to feel them, it actually stops the movement.

This isn’t a process of ‘thinking’ about the feeling, of analysing the feeling, this is about FEELING the feeling – embodying it, what does it really feel like inside your body, rather than what you think about the feeling in the mind.

Your body won’t tell you that you shouldn’t feel like this, or that so and so doesn’t feel like this, or ask why this always happens to you… that is all in your head.

Take your attention down into your body & FEEL it.

What does sadness feel like, where in your body can you feel it, is it warm or cold, squidgy, prickly, soft, hard – is it big or small.

How does your body want to BE with that feeling, does it want to be still, to breathe or perhaps movement would be helpful, add sound, yell, sob, sing.

This simple process can often allow the stuck energy to shift, change and even transmute altogether.

I would love to hear if this process works for you – let me know in the comments below.

Be more Creative, Stretch your Imagination, Dream Bigger – Use these 7 Simple Steps to Remember your Dreams

Are you ready to begin living the life of your dreams?

To create a life of our dreams we first need to be able to Dream it, to Imagine it, to get our minds THINKING about it.

I don’t mean each night in bed we should be dreaming about our dream life, but one way to stretch your imagination muscle is to begin remembering your dreams.

Dreaming also supports creative thinking and solving problems with ‘out of the box’ solutions. Something we could all use, right?

I’m pretty sure you have heard and even used the phrase ‘I’ll sleep on it’, when making a big decision, and then woken up with a better solution in the morning.

 

So, how does it actually work?

When we dream, we switch off the rational mind. We get our logical brain out of the way. This means we are able to stop limiting the possibilities and our potential, we can even fly!

Hands up who has had a flying dream?

Whilst flying may be a step too far for you to believe in ‘real life’ it does allow us to connect ideas that we wouldn’t ordinarily. Ideas and concepts that rationally wouldn’t be linked in our minds.

This then allows us to come up with new and more creative solutions to our problems. So are you ready to give it a go?

Whether you remember your dreams or not, try this simple 7 step approach for just 7 days and let me know how it goes.

 

STEP 1 – Support yourself falling asleep – reduce blue light.

To allow yourself to drift off easily to sleep reduce your exposure to blue light.

What is blue light? The simple piece you need to know is that it comes from our devices – phones, tablets, computers & even TV (LED/flat screen) and it tells our brain that it’s still daytime – making it harder to fall asleep.

This means ZERO screen time for (at least) 1 hour before bed. That may feel impossible with our dependency and addiction to our devices but just give it a go for a week.

If your alarm is on your phone, set it & forget it an hour before bed (do whatever you normally do at bedtime, just an hour earlier & leave it there) & remember to make it a nice gentle sound to wake you up slowly.

 

STEP 2 – Set an Intention

Allow the simple thought of ‘I will remember the messages in my dreams tonight’ to pass through your mind before you go to bed. Once again you are telling this mind what you want it to do.

 

STEP 3 – Place a journal & pen by the bed

Taking this small action lets the universe (& again your mind) know you are committed to remembering your dreams. You are doing your part of the arrangement.

 

STEP 4 – Instruct your body/ mind to wake just before the alarm.

We all know how lovely this is and feel so much more rested when we wake up in a ‘light sleep’ cycle, than being hauled out of deep sleep by a screaming alarm clock.

Tell your body to wake you up before the alarm and you can drift slowly awake.

Now sleep.

 

STEP 5 – Drift awake

Lie in bed for a few minutes after you awake, choose to stay in ‘dream land’ for just a little longer. Observe what is going through your mind.

Dreams can be slippery and have a sneaky way of dissolving if we try too hard to hold on to them.

 

STEP 6 – Write down the Theme of the Dream

Grab that journal & pen, but rather than trying to write down everything you can recall, just consider what was the overall theme of the dream.

Consider how do I FEEL? What might I have been processing last night?

Take note of any other key elements that stand out in your memory. This can be interesting to reflect on over a few days.

 

STEP 7 – Repeat – every night for 7 days

Or even better 21 days & begin a new habit.

Look at the daily themes and see what lessons might be hidden in there for you.

Reflect after a week on whether you’ve been feeling more creative, are better able to solve problems and make better decisions.

 

Nothing?

No worries. Stick with it. Keep inviting your mind to remember your dreams. Set the intention and keep your journal and pen ready for action.

Do you remember your dreams? Let me know in the comments below.