Your thoughts become your reality – choose them wisely

Your thoughts become your reality; be careful what you wish for; your vibe attracts your tribe. All common catchphrases, but do you know why we use them or how they can be true?

If you struggle to accept these concepts using manifestation secrets or universal law, now neuroscience has backed it up. With thanks to Dr Joe Dispenza, I can share some of the science behind the words.

Thoughts become reality

What emotions dominate your life? Are they happy, uplifting, elevated ones? Wonder, joy, gratitude, love, kindness?

Are they low vibration emotions such as anxiety, overwhelm, stress, worry, guilt or anger?

Do you know that these emotions are most likely an end product of how you think?

So, how do you think?

What you think about life is how life will be for you.
Consider your personal view in the glass half full or half empty scenario. Do you consider yourself the optimist when it comes to a glass of water?
Yes? Now ask yourself, are you actually practicing it in your life?  
What phrases do you hear coming out of your mouth (or running through your mind) over and over again?  
I’m always late; There is not enough time; I don’t get any time to myself; I’m not focussed; I never get anything finished; I’m exhausted; I’m so stressed; I don’t like exercise; I’m not a morning person; I have no self-discipline; I’m not a creative person; I have no support.  

You can see how limiting these thoughts are, very ‘glass half empty’ and they are playing on repeat in your mind all day, everyday.

To weave in a little magic, consider this – what ‘spells’ are you casting with your words? The words you speak AND the words you THINK.

Being late was so ingrained in my family that we had a name for it! We ran on ‘Tipping Time’ (my maiden name is Tipping), friends even began to tell me to meet 15min earlier than everyone else.

I thought, for the longest time, that I was destined to be a late person, it was just who I was. It was frustrating and often embarrassing, but so hard to change.

All of these thoughts can affect what we believe about ourselves, how we feel and who we think we ARE.

Dr Dispenza describes this as “your personal reality becomes your personality”

I was always late, that is what was real for me, SO I became a ‘late person’, I believed that is who I was.

How thoughts lead to feelings

The simplest way to explain is this:

What you THINK influences what choices you believe are available to you

The self-limited choices will affect how you ACT or what you DO

What you DO will result in how you FEEL

It then cycles around again because how you FEEL will affect what you THINK.

Repetitive thoughts lead to similar choices and actions, and our choices and actions lead to the same feelings and emotional responses.

Consider another example:

Thoughts: My husband doesn’t support me, I have to do everything around here;

Most likely Choices/ Actions: In believing that he doesn’t support you, you may not even ASK for support, OR if you do ask it’s filled with so much emotional baggage from feeling supported that it leads to disagreements & not receiving the support that you want;

Feelings: Unsupported, undervalued

You are having experiences and feelings (your personal reality) that are supporting your belief – that you are not supported – driving your thought patterns.

How your body becomes your mind

You are riding a bike for the first time in 20 years.

You may THINK I haven’t ridden in so long, I’m not sure whether I can anymore – but sure enough you get on the bike & perhaps after a slight wobble, your body figures it out and knows what to do. Your body has become your brain, it is doing the thinking for you!

Emotional responses become learned habits, just like riding a bike, they become embedded in our operating system. They become part of who you are!

What emotional response habits are you ready to shift?

Tune in for Part 2 to find out simple tools to Choose to Change!

Live the Life of Your Dreams.

How POSSIBLE is it to live the life you DREAM of?

Do you feel stuck? That you don't have the choices you need to create that life?

What would it take for you to feel FREE to create that life.


Image by Jasper Boer

Take a moment now and visualise your DREAM life.

Make your vision as detailed as possible.

Include: physical environment; health; fun & creativity; relationships; career; finances; spirituality; personal development; family & friends; and giving & contribution.

Write it out, make a vision board, or simply create it in your mind.

Now, close your eyes and imagine you are living that life, ALL OF IT, right now.

How do you FEEL?

Amazing, right?

What emotions and feelings are strongest when you imagine living that life?


Take notice of how THINKING about your dream life can affect how you FEEL in the present moment, in the NOW?

So, what is stopping you from FEELING like this now?

Perhaps, like a client I worked with recently – it's what’s going on inside? The thoughts and beliefs in your head?

Life may even LOOK pretty good, but those incredible FEELINGS aren't there.

This client admitted in our call that she ‘hates’ herself – that for her whole life she has hated herself…

Oh how my heart broke for her – such a beautiful, caring, considerate, incredible woman & yet something inside feels hate toward herself.

The TRUTH is – it isn't the things you have in your life that make you happy – it's how you FEEL inside.

The energy of negative though patterns and beliefs can be so heavy.

They really drain our vitality, our life-force & if we don’t catch ourselves quickly we become like Alice, falling down the rabbit hole into a world that even looks different from reality.

The late Dr Wayne Dyer famously said “You'll see it, when you Believe it”

The key to creating your 'ideal' life is being able to FEEL the feelings now, to truly believe in the possibility, to feel it as if you already have it.

Feel whole, complete, grateful – NOW, with life exactly the way it it, with YOU exactly as you are actually changes your energy.

Consciously choosing the be in a state of an elevated emotion (love, gratitude, kindness) creates an electromagnetic field around you body.

The vibration you create draws to you the life you dream of – the life that 'vibrates' at the same energy as you.

Like attracts like, your 'vibe' attracts your tribe… You've heard the catchphrases.

To change your LIFE, first you have to change your ENERGY, your vibration. New vibration = new you…

Ironically, by choosing to consciously evoke those feelings in your days you may find you don't actually need or even want some of the 'things' you thought were essential for your dream life.

Are you READY for a new you?

Make elevated emotions a daily practice.

Consciously tune into positive feelings at least once a day.

If you meditate, make it part of your meditation – as Katut said in 'Eat, Pray, Love' “Smile from your Liver”.

If you don't meditate, create the feelings as you lie in bed at night, about to fall asleep. Think of a happy thought if it helps – USE your thoughts for good.

Bonus Points – do it again when you wake up.

Each day is a new day, a new beginning, a chance to start fresh – start your day by lying in bed & say to yourself “Today is a new Day” while feeling a smiling/happy feeling radiating from your heart space.

I'd love to hear how this went for you, let me know in the comments below.